Solitude

Life. We all search to find the true meaning, always asking ‘What is my purpose?’ I don’t think one can clearly answer this question without experiencing trials and tribulations. We learn from our mistakes and ponder on the what ifs. And I think as we get older, it’s necessary to have time of solitude to think about those things. A go to place where you can gather your thoughts and reflect on yourself without interruptions. I know it seems impossible sometimes, especially if you have children, to get away and mentally check out-but it’s necessary. You can never let go of your “me” time.

There have been too many times where I have run into people from past friendships or colleagues that ask “How do you manage to keep it all together? You still look the same as you did 10 years ago.” They are so upset with themselves because they have let themselves go. They stopped working out, gained weight, feel stuck at a job they hate and have stopped their “me” time. And now, they are truly unhappy in life, because they feel like it’s too late for a change of course. I’m here to tell you that it is never too late for a change, but you have to work for it.

As I sit here, I ask myself, ‘Do I really have it all together?’ Maybe to some people I do, but my answer would be ‘no’. In fact, I wish I had way more time for myself. Working full-time, running a side business, being in a relationship and being a mother doesn’t really allow for a whole lot of “me” time. But I create “me” time and I stress to the ones in my life how important that is for me to maintain. Whether I wake up early, stay up late or cut family time down, I create it. 

I always feel like I have room for improvement, and maybe that’s just my personality, but I think about my life and there is never a time where I have felt like I wanted to settle in one job. If anything, I have felt suffocated before, due to wanting to do things that I couldn’t actually try for because my responsibility of being a good mother has always come first. Now, my son is getting older, and I am preparing for my future life after he is all grown. I always want to have new experiences. And I think that’s the key point. If you accept an unhappy life and not try for anything else, then that’s what you will have. Life will always throw curve balls and challenges, but at the end of the day, it’s about committing yourself to creating a life that makes you happy. I might be a dreamer, but it’s better to dream than to live a life of what ifs. Take care of yourself and learn new skill sets to better yourself. The universe has something in store for us all. Until next time.

Always be kind,

Erica xx 

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